I appreciated how the piece frames self-love as an encounter with someone who has been there all along.
There is something psychologically beautiful in the idea that after years of struggle, the self stops being experienced as a problem to solve and becomes someone worthy of admiration, tenderness, protection, and genuine affection. That shift felt especially powerful...
I think that’s a very good article, educational, informative and also personal to you.
Sharing personal things is a choice, and people have the right to tell their own stories - especially when it helps open conversations that are usually brushed under the carpet.
Not everything should stay taboo just because it’s uncomfortable. That’s how people stay isolated. And why we get so much wrong.
It’s hard to know the context - because there is a line. If it involves other people, lack of consent, or explicit details. But that’s not about silencing that’s moral and legal boundaries. The law covers most of the extremes or when boundaries are crossed.
People don’t have to read it / thats also a choice. But that doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be shared.
Thank you, Sarah. I remembered much, learned new facts in your article. I agree fully: talking and writing about our conditions & experiences is essential if we are to bring them out from the dark. Kudos, success to you (& all of us) in sharing the secrets that wrongfully plague us
Sarah, I’m on the cusp of 80, just a few months down the road. I’ve got plenty of ‘things’ in my overstuffed closets and that’s what I write about. I write for many reasons—one, to air out my shames. I’m relatively new here on Substack, still dealing with balancing that with my desire to take back my joy of writing (after brain injury 20 years ago stole that from me) & to leave a legacy for my children (facts they never knew about me or that they may have forgotten over the years). Don’t know how it will all play out, but I know this: every time I hit ‘publish’ I gain more freedom, exhilarating. Stay strong & thanks, again. Hugs, Anita
Anita … it is only very recently that the ‘legacy for my children’ bit occurred to me. I am so happy to hear that you too are choosing to take back something that was stolen from you. And the ‘airing out’ truly resonates with me. Sending love to you x
I appreciated how the piece frames self-love as an encounter with someone who has been there all along.
There is something psychologically beautiful in the idea that after years of struggle, the self stops being experienced as a problem to solve and becomes someone worthy of admiration, tenderness, protection, and genuine affection. That shift felt especially powerful...
That’s a beautiful comment - thank you Adrien
I think that’s a very good article, educational, informative and also personal to you.
Sharing personal things is a choice, and people have the right to tell their own stories - especially when it helps open conversations that are usually brushed under the carpet.
Not everything should stay taboo just because it’s uncomfortable. That’s how people stay isolated. And why we get so much wrong.
It’s hard to know the context - because there is a line. If it involves other people, lack of consent, or explicit details. But that’s not about silencing that’s moral and legal boundaries. The law covers most of the extremes or when boundaries are crossed.
People don’t have to read it / thats also a choice. But that doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be shared.
She wouldn’t like my writing that’s for sure
Thanks for sharing this 👍
Thanks x
What a wonderful post. Very proud to know you x
Aw shucks … thanks M ❤️
Thank you, Sarah. I remembered much, learned new facts in your article. I agree fully: talking and writing about our conditions & experiences is essential if we are to bring them out from the dark. Kudos, success to you (& all of us) in sharing the secrets that wrongfully plague us
Well Anita .. you brought a tear … thank you x
Sarah, I’m on the cusp of 80, just a few months down the road. I’ve got plenty of ‘things’ in my overstuffed closets and that’s what I write about. I write for many reasons—one, to air out my shames. I’m relatively new here on Substack, still dealing with balancing that with my desire to take back my joy of writing (after brain injury 20 years ago stole that from me) & to leave a legacy for my children (facts they never knew about me or that they may have forgotten over the years). Don’t know how it will all play out, but I know this: every time I hit ‘publish’ I gain more freedom, exhilarating. Stay strong & thanks, again. Hugs, Anita
Anita … it is only very recently that the ‘legacy for my children’ bit occurred to me. I am so happy to hear that you too are choosing to take back something that was stolen from you. And the ‘airing out’ truly resonates with me. Sending love to you x